Are you struggling in your relationship?
- Do you feel that the love has moved out of your relationship?
- Do you feel that you have become a mere functionary in your partnership?
- Do you feel trapped?
- Do you find it hard to be yourself around your partner?
- Are you avoiding expressing your true feelings to your partner?
The Hoffman Process is a 6 ½ day personal development retreat that helps you take responsibility for your own emotional reactions and helps you transform these into more emotionally adult responses.
Our family of origin provides us with the blue print of how we run our relationships. Most couples eventually notice, during conflicts or in certain stressful moments in their relationship, the disconcerting thought: “Oh my God! I have married my Mother / Father?”
There is a lot of truth in this realization because when we are triggered emotionally by our partner and don’t have the tools to deal with it, we experience ourselves as an ‘effect’ rather than a ‘cause’, just as we would have as a child.
Whenever we have the experience of not being equal to our partner or anyone else, we react automatically and are activated in our emotional child. We feel like a child, while the other person seems to hold the power and authority. At that moment we are projecting a parental image onto our partner or associate. We trap them and ourselves into an unresolvable power struggle – the parent / child dead-lock:
My partner says: “You are working late again!’ I feel criticised, so I withdraw; my partner feels abandoned and unheard, so he /she castigates me: “You are never available to me anymore and you haven’t changed your working hours even though I have spoken with you about it several times before”. One reaction usually incites further reaction and so the communication usually spirals down from there.
Unless we learn to become conscious of our reactions and find understanding for the source of our reactivity in our early childhood conditioning then we cannot hope to heal our inner emotional child. This way we can also find empathy and understanding for our partner’s reactivity and arrest these painful emotional ‘deadlocks’ that so often thwart the flow of love in a relationship. (Personal Development Video)
The Hoffman Process provides deep healing of childhood wounds. Trained relationship counselors will help you and your partner with guidance to resolve power-struggles and to become emotionally available again, so that you can truly meet each other in your spiritual essence. When both partners meet through their Spiritual Essence they experience equality, love, compassion and joy.
The Hoffman Process is suitable for some couples to participate in together. Our enrollment counselors can ascertain whether it is recommended to do the program simultaneously or separately.
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